Another day, another woman fleeing violence due to people feeling entitled to access to her. Ari Kytsya’s an OnlyFans creator who recently filmed a collaboration video with fellow adult entertainer Girthmasterr. It was consensual, professionally done, and what happened next was neither of those things. Ari recently moved into a new home, and now she has to move again—not because of what she posted, but because stalkers found her home and decided it was okay to show up and try to gain entry.
So here’s the short version. Ari and Girthmasterr had been teasing their collab video for a while now, and consumers of adult entertainment were hella excited to watch the two OnlyFans stars do what they do. The video was released and was doing numbers—but so was the count on unhinged DMs in Ari’s inbox. Things went from thirsty to threatening real fast, and Ari’s now having to move homes and invest some serious money in personal protection. What’s happening to Ari isn’t happening because of her job—it’s happening because people can’t seem to separate the work a woman does to support herself from offering access to herself. People are mistaking content for consent, and that’s an issue that isn’t exclusive to OnlyFans—it’s a society-wide epidemic.
What is happening to Ari is nothing new, unfortunately. Women the world over, in all manner of professions, find themselves stalked and harassed by people who have a wildly inappropriate understanding of the access they should be allowed to have to them. Teachers, baristas, actresses, accountants, and stay-at-home moms—all women who experience violence and stalking, because stalkers don’t check your résumé beforehand to decide who is and isn’t worthy of feeling safe in their home. To be frank, a woman can wear sweatpants and a baggy T-shirt and still be followed home. But because OnlyFans creators operate at a higher level of visibility than most women, violent people frequently turn them into targets.
The root problem here isn’t sex work—or even content creation that puts women in front of a larger audience. It’s this persisting belief that women exist to be accessed and to serve at the pleasure of others—to be touched, messaged, possessed, and put to work however the beholder so chooses. And to be clear: this isn’t a man thing. It’s a learned behavior that is still actively being handed down to younger generations. This learned behavior needs some rapid unlearning if equality is ever going to be something that exists in our world.
Now, I hate math. Like, I really, truly loathe it deep in my bones. But numbers don’t lie, so here we go:
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1 in 6 women is going to be stalked in her lifetime, and it’s highly possible it’ll be by someone she knows.
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76% of female murder victims were stalked before their death.
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Online creators are more likely to receive threats—but that’s just the tip of the iceberg of violence.
This isn’t about technology. It’s not even about sex! It’s about a sense of entitlement, and women being seen as objects to be possessed, rather than autonomous beings in charge of their own lives. Society has taught us that access to a woman—her body, her knowledge, her time, her attention—is something we are owed, rather than something that woman chooses to bestow. And that is categorically untrue.
Ari isn’t running from a brand-new house—that she loves, btw—just because she’s an OnlyFans girl who needs to get away from a few pesky admirers. She’s having to leave her home because some people were never taught that “no” is a complete sentence. Watching the content doesn’t mean you get open access to the creator, and a woman existing doesn’t mean she owes you her attention. It’s time to stop blaming women for being visible, and start looking closer at a culture that tells everyone women are public resources. Visibility isn’t the crime. Entitlement is.
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